Stress from school is a problem that many children face. While stress does have its teaching moments, as it will always be a part of life, you don’t want your daughter to become so stressed out that she starts failing in school or hating school. There are many different areas from which stress springs.
Girls are very critical about the appearances of other girls in their schools. Remind your daughter that looks ultimately do not matter. However, let her experiment with how she looks in a safe manner. Do not be dramatically opposed to her having light highlights put in her hair or getting a second piercing in her ear lobe.
Of course, there are plenty of emotional boys. However, girls do tend to be more openly emotional about certain issues. For example, your daughter might cry if she receives a failing grade on an exam, while your son might just become angry inside and play it off to his friends as though he doesn’t care. Explain to your daughter that there are always going to be disappointments in life. Furthermore, do not coddle her every time a situation does not go her way. Show her ways for dealing with stress, such as going for a walk or writing a poem, that do not involve treating her like a baby.
As girls get older, the temptations from friends at school to drink alcohol, do drugs or experiment with boys become greater. While you cannot shield your daughter from the world, you should try to help remove some of the stress from these situations, as too many stress could result in your daughter simply caving into peer pressure. Ask your daughter where she is going, and have her call in to check with you at one point during the night. Furthermore, have honest conversations about her regarding alcohol, drugs and other such topics. If her friends are pressuring her, she might feel as though she cannot talk to you about it if you aren’t open about these difficult topics.
Consider the ways in which you might place academic stress on your daughter. Expecting her to receive an “A” in every single course for the duration of her educational career is a bit impractical. If you find yourself freaking out every time she receives a “B,” you might be a major cause of the stress. Try to remain calm when she receives a grade that you feel is sub-par. Your daughter may also be putting the stress on herself. Try to engage her in some other non-academic activities to show that academics are not the only part of life. You can also hire her a tutor or help her with assignments yourself, so she does not feel so alone in the process.
School is an arena of fun, growth, learning and friendships. However, it is also a space of stress. Following the above tips does not ensure a stress-free life for your daughter, but it will help to remove some unnecessary causes of extreme stress.